There is something so disconcerting about knowing I've been lied to. Especially when it comes from someone I care & love about--someone I want to be able to trust in the future.
I want to rationalize it by telling myself that perhaps the motive for the lie was some kind of self-preservation -- maybe fear of disappointing me? -- fear of loss?
I know nobody's perfect -- and don't let me get to soundin' self righteous as if I've NEVER told a lie myself. It's just that I try so hard to be truthful in my relationships. I have found that even when telling the truth is uncomfortable or painful, it almost always leads to deeper bonds and clearer communication.
I hate being lied to. I'd rather hear a painful truth than a soothing lie any day. Once a person lies to me I find it really difficult to believe them in situations where their truthfulness is in doubt.